When I was a highschool student, my rep basketball coach taught us that the way to reach your goals is through patience, tolerance and determination.
Coach would then proceed to run us ragged with suicide drills. Which is the term used for timed sprinting drills up and down the basketball court. If the team didn’t meet the time deadline, we kept sprinting until we did. Quite often the drills involved team members throwing up at the end from sheer exhaustion.
At the end of the drills, we’d lay sprawled on the basketball court, huffing and puffing, red faced and utterly shattered. Coach would pull out a small whiteboard and walk us through goal setting exercises.
What did we want? To win the grandfinal.
What do we have to do to get there? Win games.
How do we do that? Be determined to be fitter, smarter, stronger, faster than other teams. You might not beat them in 50 metre sprints, but with the right fitness, you can run faster for the whole game.
How do we win games? Train hard, achieve our offensive and defensive skill targets and know our game transitions inside out.
Do we want to train hard? Harder than the other team? Yes we’d answer.
Then he’d challenge us with these goals. “It is the team who are willing to do more in order to win, that will ultimately succeed” he’d say. The team that dives for every ball, that busts their arse to intercept more passes, get more rebounds, who plays committed defense without fail… who sprints with their team mates on a fast break, even though their legs are on fire, in order to back up a team mate in case the shot is missed… that is the team that wins.
Be patient with the game plan, don’t bust out stupid moves. Be tolerant when things go wrong and keep a level head. Be determined with your training and in your game, and it will all pay off. Do more to win than the other team.
Discpline equals freedom, he’d say. If you commit to your goals and committ to discipline, you’ll have the freedom to enjoy success.
Then he’d ask us if we wanted to train harder than other teams.
And you guessed it, he’d have us running up and down for another round of suicide drills.
Our team got to the grandfinal that year. We were one of the smallest and most inexperienced teams in the competition that year. I’d picked up a basketball for the first time a year before the grandfinal and had found my way onto a division one rep team with girls who’d been playing for ten years. I was most certainly a weak link in our team chain. But I thrived on the coaches advice.
I’m pretty sure we lost the grandfinal. But we were thrilled to get there, and I know that we would have never gotten there without that coach.
The advice has always stuck with me. I hope one day I run into that coach so I can thank him again. The following year was my HSC. With much patience, tolerance and determination, I smashed my goals (which were an academic stretch to begin with) and my TER was 15 % higher than I was aiming for.
I was watching the following artists’ you tube this morning and it made me think about my coaches sage advice on goal setting.
Whilst the youtube runs for a minute and a half, I’ve spoken with the artist about the length of time and dedication it takes to make stencil artworks of this scale and detail. And even then, I suspect the artist plays down how bloody hard he worked on the painting.
I’m glad I revisited this youtube this morning. It reminded me that my discipline has turned to crumbs of late and a long standing project is in dire need of some blood, sweat and tears.
The 2013 Australian Guns & Roses concert. I had absolutely no expectations when I went to the concert, despite thinking it might be woeful, with Axl being the only original band member, I was still keen to go.
When I was 17 my next door neighbour Michelle and I were miraculously given permission to travel without adult supervision to Sydney from Newcastle to go to their 1993 Eastern Creek concert. The infamous concert, where Axl was three hours late to stage after a huge fight with the band. Eventually he was choppered into the motorway arena and the gig got underway. 70,000 metal heads had been baking in the sun all day, no shade. Just dust and cement and booze. If he hadn’t of shown, there would have been a riot.
Michelle and I were utterly in love with Gunners in the late 80s. With the music charts brimming with Bros, Kylie and spandex lipgloss metal – Gunners were a breath of fresh air. The band were so raw and angry and wild. It was full of swear words and you could dance to it. What more could teenage girls want? Plus men liked them, it was a guaranteed conversation starter. Where’d you get your GNR shirt? All paths led to Gunners.
Everything rode on the back of GNR back then. Crushes, parties, heartache, fear and that soul crushing anger that only teenagers know. For me, Guns & Roses opened up a window to a universe that my parents and teachers would never know. Their music sent me to a place that authoritarian adults could never reach. It was all mine. I owned the music, it seeped into every cell and tissue and bone. It could take me out of the hell hole that I was in and drop me off some place better.
And mum HATED them.
See ya later world. Hello Paradise City. If you can imagine one big long dumper wave that never dumped. How I loved their first two albums. The energy in them was palpable. It still is. So it is with this nostalgic chest squeezy excitement that I jumped on the 2013 tickets.
The 2013 concert would never stand up to 1993 and nor did I expect it too. I’ve been around the block enough to know that you can’t top your teenage music loves. But the concert was a good time.
Axl had not aged quite as I had hoped, and he literally spent half of each song off stage in a black tent (oxygen?) whilst the guitarists noodled out extended bridges and extra riffs. The instrumentals between most songs were hard to wade through (I just wanted fast rock’n'roll). The instrumentals added extra opportunity for Axl to retreat to the tent for more air.
But the old hits warmed my heart, even though it was more of a covers band than not. I was chuffed by Axl’s dogged showmanship. He’s still the super ego. Putting on a huge show even if it half kills him. Gone are his mesmirising snake dances. But he’s still got fight. Pyrotechnics at every turn, ridiculously expensive visual displays, a massive ticker tape parade (see below) and the amusing encore “theatre bows” at the end. And yes, he’s still got the high notes.
At the very end, just before we left, Axl reached out into the crowd and lobbed his microphone into the air. It landed just near me, but after five hours of standing in the same spot, I couldn’t be bothered getting into the ensuing scrum to fight for it. This simple act made me smile. Axl had done the same thing back in 93, only back then he cracked a guys head open when he lobbed it, and the punter had to be stretchered out by medics through the crowd.
Axl might have gotten older and heavier (like the rest of us) and is finally managing to turn up on time, but the super ego Axl lives on. For me at least, he’s still holding a bit of the unrelenting arrogance torch that we loved him for all the way back when. Which is a good thing because when I crank my gunners, and I’m at odds at the world, it’s the super ego that I’m looking for.
P.S An hour after posting this, I read here that an Australian man had had his front teeth damaged when Axl threw the microphone into the crowd during the Perth concert.
A missed opportunity. Passed over for someone else. Failing to reach a personal goal. When the chips don’t fall your way and you miss out on something great, for reasons that you can’t control, what do you do?
I generally land in a heap on the ground. I sulk and mope. My internal dialogue gets nasty.
I’m no good. I’m hopeless. It’s all doomed.
That’s how I was feeling this morning upon receiving some disappointing news. I’d missed out on something I wanted.
I know it’s pointless to beat myself up, yet I was doing just that.
Flicking around on facebook in the aftermath of feeling blue, I came across this quote from the Writers Studio page.
“In a good story a character will be faced will seemingly insurmountable obstacles. He or show will grow as a result of facing the challenges thrown up. In that way, a good story dramatises and reveals what the writer believes is true in life at a deep level. What you can become, depends on what you can overcome.“
The quote was a lightbulb moment for me. It’s not about not failing or missing out, it’s about overcoming set backs and moving on.
Just after New Years Eve, I decided to take Sarah Wilsons’s I Quit Sugar Experiment which runs for 8 weeks. During a stressful work period, and over the summer holidays, I’d somehow let sugar was creep into my diet and I wanted to do something about it.
After weeks of scorching heat, the rain has finally arrived. It’s a lazy melancholy public holiday here in Sydney, so I thought I’d take a few moments to wander around my garden in the rain and snap some photos on my phone. My garden is small and more wonky than whimsical. It won’t ever win any . . . → Read More: Rainy days
As I ever so gradually and gracefully become more seasoned in life, I’m starting to enjoy the warmer weather*. For a very long time, I loathed super hot weather – possibly because for a long time I was 19 years old** with a face full of luscious make up, my hair perfectly styled into the perfect . . . → Read More: It’s beginning to feel like armageddon
This morning I was inspired by a friends facebook comment, in which she spoke about trying to start the morning with an optimistic glass half full outlook. The comment really struck a chord with me, perhaps because I’m struggling to find the’ half full’ outlook when it comes to my day job. Whilst I’m grateful to . . . → Read More: The little things
I don’t know Jill Meagher personally, but waking up today to find out that they’d found her body left me feeling slightly shattered. I’ve been anxiously following the social media appeal to find her over the past 7 days.
Jill’s story has struck an almighty chord with Australia.
The public concern has been impressive, and I’m left wondering . . . → Read More: It makes no sense
Are you a crier? Ever been called a sad sack? Are you one of those people that enjoys a good bawl during a sad movie? Well I am.
I also love sad songs, heart felt stories, soppy poetry and those kleenex puppy ads on TV. When I was a kid I remember crying during a horse race . . . → Read More: Get your tears on
Your wildest dreams. Just how do you reach for them? And what do you do if you never get to them? This morning I tried to imagine what it would be like if I never get to live out my wildest dreams. What would it feel like and could I possibly be happy? And if not, . . . → Read More: Reaching for your wildest dreams
There are ways to drastically improve your home even if you’re a renter with a limited budget. Structural changes are obviously out of the question. But have you thought about how powerful a tin of paint can be when it comes to home improvement?
You’ll Be Sorry When I’m Dead by Marieke Hardy
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Once I set aside my own envy of Hardy (she’s had some great opportunities land in her lap) I really enjoyed “You’ll Be Sorry When I’m Dead”. Good funny hungover stuff. Her stories struck a chord with me as I’ve recently begun to . . . → Read More: Book review – “You’ll be sorry when I’m dead” by Marieke Hardy
For my entire life (decades and decades of it), I’ve had this awful coat hanger in my wardrobe. As a kid, as a teenager, as an adult.
This awkward looking coat hanger with its double metal clips would catch on other hangers and on other clothes in my wardrobe. It never sat straight, always on an angle. . . . → Read More: The day I threw out THAT coat hanger
Defintion of Awe: an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration, fear, etc., produced by that which is grand, sublime, extremely powerful, or the like.
This blog is a collection of things that bring me awe.
From the beautiful to the bizarre, to the inspiring to the simplest little joys - to finding something happy in a really shitty day. Here I ask myself to look for the positive each day and to find the glass half full more often than empty.
Comments