I’m short on energy these days. More so than I ever thought possible. So in an attempt to simplify life and have more time and energy and room in my over active head, I realised today that I hold onto way too many unnecessary decisions.
Little control freaky moments. OH MY GOSH.
Take for example, the evening meal.
In a bid to work less and have more time at home for the family, we’ve been a little more vigilant with the shopping list and sticking to the monthly grocery budget this year. Which means we cook dinner every night. So, in order to get more bang for our buck, my partner and I decided to make a meal plan each week.
It sounds boring. And yes, it can be. However, once you’re in the swing of it, it liberates your 4pm.
No longer do we have the tired old daily “what are we going to eat for dinner” phone call to each other. It’s one decision we don’t have to make 365 days of the year. No thankyou. Just 52.
Nor do either of us have to rush out and buy the grocery items and then cook them after a long day. Nope, it’s already sorted. And it takes about 10minutes to work it out once a week, which we do just before the weekly fresh food shop. Plus whoever is home gets about preparing the meal around their daily tasks. It’s a good way to break up the day. Onions and garlic in the morning. Throw in a few chores. Chop the veggies after lunch. Get stuck into a creative project with some of that extra headspace.
And where possible, we make double or triple quantities and freeze food. Nothing quite beats a defrosted home cooked healthy meal on a bone tired day.
It is shameful to admit, but now I’m FINALLY at the point where I’m happy to not be involved in meal planning, grocery list planning or the shopping. Yes I’ve realised I do not have to be involved in it because others are as capable of doing it just as well as me. Epic realisation. If my partner wants to do it, great. If not, I can do it. They touched on this sentiment on Channel 9’s Home Renovation TV show, The Block the other night. “If you’re pressed for time, don’t go shopping together”. Makes sense. Why double up on monotonous decisions or tasks?
I’ve also worked out that my partner knows what I like to eat. There’s a lot of salad and light meals on the menu that he supplements on his plate with hunks of meat.
The other side of less control is more surprises. Trust and surprises, these are lessons I’m learning as I take more steps into the realm of ‘easy-going-ness’.
It’s a sentiment that is spilling into other areas of my life as I realise how tightly I hold trivial details of day to day life.
Less meaningless – must – dip – my- toe- in- every – pie moments.
Another example is the monthly trip to the bottle shop (another money saver technique of ours, you churn through the cash at the local bottlo with their $21 bottles of wine) – ‘just surprise me honey’ I said to my partner today. (I know, you may think that’s a no brainer, but for me it was a first). As I realised there’s no need for me to trawl through Dan Murphy’s website, create a list and then have my partner trawl the aisles looking for the items I’ve added to a list. He’s there, he can work out a game plan.
Same goes for the landscaping on the backyard, we’ve talked about what we want it to look like. I won’t be doing the heavy work, and I can’t get down to the recycling centre to work out which items we’ll be purchasing… so I’ve handed over the rest of the details to him. It’ll be a nice surprise to see how his interpretation of the backyard plans turn out. And I don’t have the energy.
When you let go, it creates headspace.
As I look around now, I see dozens of trivial decisions cropping up everywhere. Ones that don’t require two adults, or even me for that matter. Ones that can be divided and conquered to free up more headspace.
It really is incredible how the world still turns without my watchful eye on every single decision…
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